I’m bipolar, I write about it a lot. I cover a lot of mental health topics on this blog. I’m passionate about it. But even people who are super understanding and have been through a lot have their limits, and I want to talk about that. I want to talk about something that deeply annoys me in bipolar communities, and that’s people who have access to treatment and refuse it because they like the high of mania despite the fact that they are putting their loved ones through daily hell.
Untreated bipolar happens to everyone with the disorder. We all start untreated. Sometimes people can’t afford it. Sometimes we have to go off our medications for health reasons. Sometimes we haven’t found the right treatment and we’re in limbo as we try to get it right. It’s hard and I will support people through those rocky years without any hesitation. It’s when people have no excuse for being untreated. It’s when they give up because it’s difficult to find the right meds and therapy. It’s when they don’t do anything to try and prevent their toxic actions that hurt people. It’s when they roll over in defeat without caring the consequences.
And there are consequences, a lot of them. Untreated bipolar disorder destroys families, it ruins marriages, drains savings, and it hurts children. There is a reason bipolar disorder has a bad reputation, people have bad experiences with bipolar people, and it’s one thing for people to put those aside when they know their loved one is trying hard to correct their actions. It understandable to have to fight with this disorder, and loved ones should be patient, but I don’t blame people for not wanting to be part of an untreated bipolar persons life if they have no plans to get treatment and solve their problems.
It sounds harsh, but so is actively hurting people with your actions.
As I’ve said before and I’ve said again, bipolar disorder can own your emotions. I don’t always have control over my emotions, but I do have control over my actions. It’s my responsibility to be responsible for myself and make sure I have the proper care I need.