Thoughts to Start the New Year With:

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If you’ve been on Twitter lately, it’s all about 2016 being the worst. And I’m not going to disagree, there has been a lot of bad this year. But to keep perspective, I know a lot of people who have had very good personal things happen this year (I did too! Logged all in my travels this year). However if you ask me if 2016 was a good year… I’m going to go with no. It’s been kind of rough all over.

I don’t believe that the start of 2017 is going to reset the world, but bad is always balanced by good, and it’s about time for an up swing. So whether you think a clean slate comes Saturday at midnight or you’re just hoping this time next year you can say that it’s been a good year here are some insights. Actually- that’s the wrong word. These are just things to keep in mind as we start 2017. Continue reading

Blogging Advice & Why You Shouldn’t Follow All of It:

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The internet is a wonderful place and social media has become a huge part of that wonderment. The accounts we follow are visually pleasing and on point with our aesthetic, they’re enjoyable, but they are also full of motivation and little bits of insight. A big trend in social media lately is instagraming instagram tips and blogging about blogging.

I work in social media and a ton of the tips are amazing. They’re useful and they help you grow. When I’m doing work for companies I focus strictly on growing the audience, driving traffic, and interaction. All  of these things highlighted in these blogger tips posts.

But if they are so great why am I saying you should ignore some of them?

Social media is tricky because there are so many different uses for it. If you’re running a company your social media probably should be a little different then if you’re not. As bloggers we are a little stuck in the middle, some of us are selling services and have shops, some of us are doing promoted posts, and some of us are just blogging for us. If you’re strictly doing social media for a service or a shop, this might not apply to you, but if you fall into the other two, it probably does.

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Five Reasons to Make a Bucket List:

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We’ve all got them- or at least, a mental one. The ones that lead to shouting out “Oh I’ll go to Paris one day!” when someone mentions a vacation they had in passing. Sometimes we have millions and millions of things on these lists… other times we just have three to five. But if you don’t have one written down you might want to look to it. Continue reading

The art of setbacks and motion:

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Life is a funny thing that catches us completely off guard. We think something is going fine then we turn around and everything falling apart… then again, three weeks later everything falls back together. It’s a nonstop roller coaster of “I’m alright” and “oh shit!”. It’s nice to believe that we’ll finally come across a day when it’s all good, and it stays that way, but that just isn’t true. Even on the days where most things are good, something little can bring you down. The question isn’t how we stabilize the good, it’s how we come to view the bad.

And that’s to stop looking at it as a threat.

If we start looking at the bad as natural we stop giving it the power to destroy. We need to look at it as a spill, something we need to clean up and then keep moving on past. A hiccup if you will, a small ditch that we have to walk around instead of a giant crater- No matter how big that ditch seems there is always a path around things. To get into the mindset of treating everything as a diversion not a set back is a really hard mindset to master. But it’s something we must master if we ever want to move forward.

Advice to Take to Heart:

215Someone is going to ask me about my phrasing, but there is just something about being at peace and in complete bliss that makes you feel light, like your soul weighs less. The weight of the world no longer seems so crushing.

My life has been improving consistently in the past three years. You could say adulthood is treating me well, but a big part of it is I’ve learned how to treat myself well. That right there is an under appreciated art form.

Here are my top tips to do just that:

  • Clean Out: Delete friends off social media that you don’t actually enjoy seeing on your main page. Delete old text message conversations. Clean out your contacts on your phone. Go through your desk, vanity, and closet. Get rid of the stuff you haven’t even thought about using in the past few months. Get rid of the weight of the past and make room for the things you actually need.
  • Make the Effort: You know that friend that you love but never see? Those people who you’ve always wanted to get to know but never have? Make the effort for them. Don’t do any of this “they’ll text me first” nonsense. That doesn’t work anyways, if everyone waits for someone to text them first no one would ever talk again. People are busy. You are busy. Make time for one another.
  • Journal: Blog, Photo journal. Do something to release the feelings and the memories. It’s a great way to distress and an even better thing to go through later on. You’ve felt this before, next time you do you can read yourself through how you got through it.
  • Stop Feeding Your Negatives: Stop reading the sad novels every time you pick up a book. Unfollow the depressing blogs. Download happier music.
  • Believe Your Beautiful: Tell it to yourself every time you look in the mirror. Check yourself out. Wear things that look good on you. When struggling, you just have to fake it till you make it.
  • Get Lost in Nature Every Now and Then: It’s easy to forget what being still means in a city. It’s important to emerge yourself in the great outdoors. Talk about distressing and recharging.
  • Engage: If you’re going to be on Facebook, WordPress, Tumblr, Twitter, than comment, send people pm’s. There’s a study that proves that people who interact on social media are happier than those who do not.
  • Wash your Towels and Bedding More Often: This sounds a little silly, but honestly it’s such an underrated pleasure.
  • Do Something New: There is more to life than just living, right?
  • Learn to Laugh it Off: How many posts do you see about “remembering the embarrassing thing you did three years ago”? And how often does something like that ruin your day. Everyone makes mistakes. You looked stupid. It’s okay, it’s all good, and in a movie you would laugh at it. Do it now. Let it go. Force yourself to the next topic.
  • Drink More Fluids: Water is the best, but tea is almost as good. Just rinse out some of those toxins.
  • Get Inspired: Read a book on something you strive for. Read a blog. Listen to a friend of role model. Listen to a tedtalk.
  • Set Realistic Goals: It’s nice to dream big. Hell, you should dream big. But make your goals possible. Nothing is more discouraging than planning for a one in a million chance and not getting it. High hopes, realistic expectations.
  • Let God into your Life: This can mean different things to different people. Figure out what it means for you.
  • Never Stop Creating: It doesn’t matter how good the end result is. It’s good for the soul, and it’s good for the mind.