Being a “stan” is unhealthy.

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Fandoms can get us through some rough times, they can be our light when we have trouble finding one. I’m not saying that people shouldn’t enjoy things and enjoy them well, I’m just saying that there is a threshold people pass where it starts to get unhealthy fast.

Maybe it isn’t safe to say, but celebrities aren’t your friends, characters aren’t your friends, and honestly we’ve turned celebrities and characters into one of the same. I’m not saying that you can’t find refuge and comfort in them, but I am saying that you need to be focused on your outside life and outside relationships more than you focus on your fandoms. Being a fan isn’t bad for you, focusing all your energy on it instead of what’s going on in your actual life is.

The fact of the matter is we all get wrapped up in things that aren’t relevant to our daily lives, whether it be a fandom or marathoning too much reality TV, we get swept away in these universes. I get it, I’m a writer. I get swept up in my own universe often, but you need to be able to leave it behind and go about your day without it. You need to be able to function and be happy if a band breaks up or if the character dies in the last movie.

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We need to talk about our celebrity problem:

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I feel like I’ve watched hundreds of celebrities fall from grace recently. It’s empowering to watch bad people exit stage left, but watching how torn up people have been over their favorites falling has led me back to something I haven’t spent much time thinking about since a group of my friends were neck deep into the One Direction fandom years ago.

Hint: It’s about celebrity worship.

There is nothing wrong with liking a celebrity. There is nothing wrong with loving their work and buying every album or movie the moment it comes out. What’s concerning is when celebrities pass “my favorite _____”, then pass “my role model”, and land in “my idol”.

Idols are problematic in general, from a religious standpoint, but they’re problematic without that take too. People have hold their favorite celebrities up as untouchable. Anything they do wrong is immediately dismissed. They are to be imitated. They are to be worshiped as gods among us.

It doesn’t seem like that big of a concern most the time, because I’m not around it much. I’m an adult. We grow out of these stages, or at least, most of us do. We shake it off and move on with our lives. However, there are times when I fall into the depths of Twitter or Tumblr and I find out that the worlds teenagers are spending their youth obsessing with other’s lives on social media. They’re making blogs for them. They’re posting daily pictures of them. They know what hotel they are staying at tonight. And it’s absolutely toxic for them.

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