Five Ways to Keep Your Dreams Realistic:

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I wouldn’t consider myself a planner, I hardly ever plan my days, I’m bad at scheduling, and I generally get distracted. However, when it comes to my future I have a few set dreams which are really concrete. I, in all meanings of the word, have a plan. I might not have all the steps figured out, but I’ve identified the big ones and am working my way towards it.

Sometimes when I look at this plan I wonder if I want to much, I think it’s a thought we can all relate too, whether it is in a moment of doubt or whether we actually just have blown our dreams up a little too big. I find myself going over my plan, piece by piece, to see if the overall dream might be out of reach.

I’ve had friends who had high expectations for everything and I’ve watched them get disappointed. So I decided to build a goal into my plan: keep my dreams big but realistic.

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Dealing with Roadblocks:

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It’s safe to say that we’ve all been held up by something we could have lived perfectly happy without. And it’s safe to say that when we are held up by these things we often get frustrated and annoyed. It’s only the natural response, when things are in our way we like to move them, but often times things are much to large to simply push out of our paths.

I could list a million little roadblocks that I’ve come across, the most recent one being this awful case of Lyme I have currently. My beautiful summer plans for after graduation disappeared. I haven’t moved out because I haven’t been able to pick up all the work I would need too. In fact, if I had moved out I’d have to move back in. I feel like I’m not making much progress and I’ve missed out on things I was looking forward too (including a postponed trip to NYC.)

Roadblocks suck, and dealing with them isn’t always easy. Sometime the only way to deal with them is to wait, and if you’re anything like me waiting seems almost unbearable at times. So what do you do? How do stand behind a roadblock and just deal with it?

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What I Want is Boring:

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It seems that everyone I know is all about the bigger and the better. They have dreams I can’t even touch and want a lifestyle so far from standard. There is nothing wrong with that, in fact, it takes big dreams to go big places. But what I want has always been a little different. This sounds funny to say on a lifestyle blog, but the life I want… is kind of boring. It’s standard. I don’t really care if I’m rich. I don’t want to be the most successful. I don’t even want to have huge chunks of time off.

I want to find that American Dream everyone speaks of, but with a twist. It’s come to mean a lot in the business world, almost a symbol for being able to work your way to the top. But the top is a lot of work, and I’m happy being lower on the totem pole.

See, I don’t want to live in a big city. I don’t want to go to big parties. I don’t want to have to own all these fancy clothes. I just want to be on a little house with a piece of land, a horse, a 9-5 with some freelance side work, and hopefully at some point a family.

It’s such a typical dream that people tend to tell me to dream bigger.

But I don’t need to dream bigger, and you don’t really need to dream bigger either.

Don’t let the craze of the world tell you that your plans aren’t enough.

The Dream Schemes: How Future Dreams Change

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We’ve all experienced that time where were standing with the thing that we wanted within reach and we pull back and say “but I don’t really want it.”

It’s normal, and it’s hard to wrap our heads around in the aftermath. We’re logical beings, we know that what we want changes, but there are some dreams which we are sure won’t, and when they do we’re struck by them and unsettled.

Dreams develop. We might think we want to be a big named published author and then a few years down the road realize that, no, self publishing and just having the work out there would be more than enough to make us happy, because we don’t have the time or the money for the rest of it, and to be honest, other things are more important (can you tell that this one is a personal one?) And that’s okay.

There isn’t a problem with lowering your bar, because normally when you do it’s because you’ve raised something else up. If you’re lowering it only because you don’t think you can make it, that’s a different story, but the balancing act between dreams is normal. Your priorities change, and guess what? They will keep changing, because you’re still changing. As long as you’re keeping dreams and goals, then the rest doesn’t matter.