Loneliness: How to try and beat it.

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I saw someone post about being jealous of the characters on Sex and The City for having a close group of friends, it had well over 500 likes, under it were a lot of comments and jokes about being lonely. I see posts like this often, I hear comments about it in person too. People talk about how isolated they feel all the time. They talk about the fear of losing deep and meaningful connections and settling for quick chats. There’s been articles published about the loneliness ‘epidemic’ sweeping across the western world, and debates on if social media makes it worse or better.

I understand it, not because I would define myself as lonely, but because I can see the type of connections I used to have verses the types of connections I have now. My boyfriend excluded, I don’t have a best friend, I haven’t had one since I was in high school. I have friends, and I love them all dearly, but I don’t have one that I rush to talk about almost everything, and I certainly don’t have one that I talk to everyday. Maybe this is part of growing up, maybe we’re meant to trade some of these connections in for ones of a different kind. After all, we get busy, we’re working, we get in romantic relationships, we might just not have the time or energy to be buddies like we were in grade school. I honestly believe this is true, but I also believe that there is more going on here than just that.

I think that as a whole our society is becoming more isolated. I believe that as with most everything, most of this is our own doing. Sure it’s hard to meet people, but I think the real problem is that once we meet people we never get close to them. So how do we change that? How do we move on to being more social?

  • Change your idea of social events: It’s becoming more common to be an introvert than an extrovert and I’m not surprised. We’ve made all social gatherings a production. It’s parties and concerts and shopping, but it doesn’t have to be that way all the time. It can also be two people sitting on the couch catching up or making cookies at home. Social events don’t have to be energy draining, and when they aren’t, we tend to make more room for them because they aren’t taking up our down time but rather adding to it.

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The Value of Morals: Why it’s Important to Take a Closer Look

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I think morals have been on a lot of peoples minds lately, mainly because this election season there seems to be a lack of them from everyone. I’m not here to talk politics and being upset by them. Actually if I’m being honest that’s the last thing in the world I want to do. Instead I’m going to talk about your morals and about mine. I’ve said before that I have strong morals, and I do, but if you asked me to list some of them I wouldn’t be able to. They feel just like a code of right and wrong. In a lot of ways they are. Here’s the definition:

Morals (noun): a person’s standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do.

I find morals interesting, because while they link to the general idea of right and wrong, they’re a lot more personal than that. And they also come from a very personal place, whether that be religion, our upbringing, our education, or a mixture of factors. Continue reading