Romantic relationships are partnerships and should be treated like it.

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In Australia they don’t say ‘my significant other’ they say ‘my partner’ because that is what relationships really are, they’re a partnership.¬† I often see hear people talk about how you shouldn’t rely on your partner, and I agree with 50% of what they’re saying.

I agree that you need to be able to function without them, you need to be able to live if something were to happen to them or if something were to happen to the two of you. But not being able to function without someone and relying on someone are not the same thing. You should be able to rely on your partner. They should be carrying you when you can’t carry yourself. I know that there’s an idea out there that you should never be unable to do things alone, but it’s false, everyone needs help, and sometimes we need a lot of it. I touched on this in my relationships and mental illness post, but the same way they should carry you when you can’t, you should carry them. It’s a two-way street. It’s a partnership.

The whole premise of dating isn’t just for fun, though it’s turned into that over the years, it’s that you’ve got someone by your side to tackle life with. It’s a try out session for the partner that will last you a lifetime. And being a partner means a lot more than being in love with your best friend. It means that you ask each other for permission before making sizable decisions. It means that you seek each others advice on near everything. People hear you talk about these things and think that you’re in a controlling relationship, but that isn’t what its about. It’s about wanting the others opinions and wanting them to agree with you as you make choices that will effect both your lives.

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The Candy Bomber:

Everyone needs a reminder how good the world is, even in the most evil time. This story is from World War 2. A man known as “The Candy Bomber”, named¬†Gail Halvorsen, shared two sticks of gum with kids in the bombed destruction of Berlin. The kids split them as many times as they could and then passed around the wrappers to smell the mint. It gave Halvorsen the idea to ask his friends for their rations of gum and chocolate. He told the kids he would air drop the candy, like he had the supplies. He said they should look for the plain that waved it’s wings. He dropped the candy the next day all tied to handkerchiefs as parachutes.

Word got out around the states and soon tons of candy and handkerchiefs came pouring in. They dropped candy for days and days on end. Around Christmas time, and at first out of the hands of soldiers already fighting over seas. Halvorsen said that he got called in to talk to his officials, expecting to be chastised, but was greeted with warm regards and permission to continue.