Retraining your brain: We’ve taught ourselves that mindless activities can take the place of hobbies

20180716_202856.jpgIf you’re like me you might be making a big push to spend more time on your hobbies and less time wasting time. I know a lot of people who are doing this, because after all we are in a digital age that runs on wasting time. Instead of going for a hike you’re rewatching a show you’ve seen before on Netflix, or worse, you’re wasting your time scrolling through Netflix for something to watch. We mindlessly scroll and we know it’s a problem, so a lot of us are trying to fix it.

But adding our hobbies back into our lives often feels like a chore. I talked about how going from a mindless activity to a mindful activity often seems like hard work, and I think we can agree just by how hard it is to talk ourselves into doing the things we love.

We love them, it should be easy, but it never is. So we add it to our to do list, we force ourselves to do them. Maybe that’s the only way to break the cycle, to make yourself get up and act. Maybe it’s harder to channel motivation to do it in a more natural way. Maybe it takes some time to build up the excitement you used to have. But if it lasts for more than the first two weeks you have to really look at why these things still feel like chores to you.

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Why I Won’t be Watching #GIRLBOSS on Netflix.

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If you’ve read every book on bloggers ‘must read’ lists then you know about #GIRLBOSS. I haven’t seen a list without it in a long time. I read the book and I wasn’t as carried away with it as everyone else, I thought it was written poorly and had bad flow, but the story was good enough.

I didn’t actually have a problem with the book until I looked into the story it was about. I found articles like this one full of reviews from Nasty Gal’s workers saying that the business was run poorly and that Sophia Amoruso¬†filled management roles based on friendship not skill. For a long time Glassdoor only had a two out five star rating from employees who worked there. In the last year it’s gone up to three. Sophia Amoruso¬†is no longer CEO but when I read about all of this she was and a lot of the reviews were directed at her personally.

Those reviews weren’t even considering the lawsuit Nasty Gal was involved in after firing more than one female employee right before they took maternity leave. For a woman and business that were built on women empowering women I couldn’t think of an action that counter acts that message more. Continue reading