Scheduling Daily Life: The Dos and Donts

Scheduling Daily LifeIf you’re anything like me, you might find that there aren’t enough hours in the day. Or even worse, you don’t think there are, so you give up and procrastinate.

It’s hard to budget time for things when we don’t know how long they’ll take to get done, or we feel rushed to get to the next thing. That’s why it always amazes me when people manage to break down their schedule into thirty minutes to hour long chunks of time. It just doesn’t seem that realistic to me.

But there has to be some type of system or we find ourselves not getting anything done at all!

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Staying Busy: Why you should bulk up your schedules

] 081So I’d like to pretend like I’m one of those people who is always busy. But as a twenty-something year old I’d have to say that that’s not always true. You know the story, college kids procrastinating on tumblr, netflix, or whatever other thing, alone in our room dissolving into nothing for a few hours a day. It’s a great escape… but only every now and then. The internet likes to make itself into an extreme life style. It glamorizes staying in and an extreme form of relaxation that actually passes the line of relaxation and into the realm of wasted time.

I’m as guilty as the next girl. In high school I was on tumblr 24/7. I thought it was a great way to spend all my time because it was inspiring. Well, that’s true. Tumblr is inspiring. But for it to be considered as an inspiration in your life… it has to inspire something.

Here’s what I’m getting at: We need to get off the couch, out of bed, and do more.

Writing this last summer would have made me a hypocrite. Writing it this summer, I can say that it’s a lifestyle change that will change you for the better. Not only will you see your goals move closer and closer, but you will be naturally happier. Here’s why:

  • You’ll sleep better an sounder at night.
  • You’ll be more active, which will release more endorphin’s, which will help your health overall, give you more energy… do I need to go on?
  • You’ll feel less anxious about social plans. Social anxiety is really big in our generation. If you force yourself to get out there more often it will stop seeming like such a weight. When you’re seeing people four times a week rather than once every two weeks you’ll be able to grow stronger relationships and the activity will seem less like a burden because of that and because you’re comfort zone will shift by what you’re used too.
  • You’ll be able to grow your hobbies. Didn’t you want to learn to play the guitar? Didn’t you used to love to paint? There’s more hours in the day to do things when you’re not behind re-watching an entire TV show or scrolling endlessly.
  • You’ll learn what’s important to you on the computer. You’ll figure out which TV shows you really care enough about to stick with and if reading up on a few bloggers is more important than going through 1000.

*The picture is from an internship I did senior year of high school, hence the old school desk top*

The New Hope Chest:

HCYou’ve heard about hope chests, haven’t you? Well, if you haven’t they’re an old tradition where a mother collects a big chest fill of things for her daughters future house. Now, my mom has a few things that she’s going to give me, but it isn’t the same. People are buying everything new, mothers aren’t normally cranking out handmade linens. It’s just not a super common thing anymore. Well, as a 20 something year old hope chests mean something else. I have friends who still live at home and are planning to move out at sometime. They’re creating hope chests. They’re collecting stuff for the life they want. It’s like dressing for the job you want in a way. Imagining what will be, setting yourself up a little at a time.

Moving out and getting an apartment is hard if you don’t have a start up kit, and that’s what hope chests can become. You’re paying for things over time instead of all at once, and they don’t have to just be for homes, though the home one is what I have, I know that some women do them with baby stuff. You can do them with any real life style changes you are getting ready to make. Changing career? Moving states? Traveling the world? Get creative with it. Don’t count on just your mother for some hope.

The Timeline Dilemma:

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Though you didn’t sit down and plan it this way, you have a timeline. A start here date. There’s a post circling the internet talking about “if I’m not engaged by 25 I might as well give up” or “if I don’t get the stable job right out of college my entire plans change”. We have a countdown, a stop watch ticking that seems to get faster as each birthday passes. The dreaded “I’m 20 and I haven’t done anything with my life”.

People have been talking about this a lot in our generation, and we’re so stressed out about it that quarter life crisis is a coined term. We’re not 100% sure where our timeline came from or when it formed, but it’s there. So how do we deal with… not making it in time?

I was talking to a friend recently about how dangerous it is to set dates for yourself. I tried to explain that it was good for me because it gave me goals. It gave me things to work towards too. She shook her head, and said that putting end dates on your goals, just gave you disappointment. She was right.

How much time do we spend stressing out about not being far enough along? Goals are healthy, and we should always have set ones, but you have to give them room to change. One of the hardest lessons to learn is that even though you don’t get what you want you will get what you need. Life throws curve balls, and timelines are only helpful if life had a perfect pitch. Drop the dates, set goals in steps not big pictures, and remember that nothing is late, you don’t miss out on anything you’re supposed to have.