When I have something bad happen to me my mind changes the way it looks at things, and it changes for the worse. One bad thing leads my mind to all the other bad things that I have had happen in my life. It makes me look back at my pain and think: this is more than normal. Or worse it makes me think: there has been more of this then there has been of the good.
It gets dangerous when that second thought surfaces, because it leads me into the kind of sadness that lasts for days. A kind of self-pity and resignation that just isn’t healthy. It changes my perspective and makes a single negative worth a life time of negatives. It’s a kind of mindset that can alter your life if you hang onto it for too long.
I’ve been in and out of this state for the last few months. Recovering from Lyme and Mono hasn’t been easy, and sometimes it drags me down emotionally.
So how do you shake it? It seems almost impossible when you are sitting under it.
Surround yourself with “ideas, dreams, and dive” people: Positive people are some of the best influences. I’m not talking about the ones who are so peppy they make you tired or people who are always happy. I’m talking about people who try to find the best in people and events. The ones who can make a good conversation out of anything and give good advice. I saw a tweet recently (un-cited) that said that we should surround ourselves with people who talk about ideas, dreams, and dive, not people who talk about other people. It’s just something interesting to think about, because we are all influenced by the people we spend time around.
Anna Down South 