Who taught you that? Asking where your ideas came from.

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, and the good kind, not the kind where I get really caught up in my own anxieties. I’ve been listening to a lot of smart people, but they haven’t been telling me what to think, which I’ve grown accustom to through years of schooling. No, these people I’ve found through varies outlets on my laptop, where asking me questions. They wanted me to produce the answers for myself.

In a debate I heard someone ask “who taught you that?” to someone who was presenting one of their most dramatic viewpoints, something that they saw completely as fact.

Who taught me my dramatic viewpoints? The answer isn’t one person, it hardly ever is. We tend to take notes from hundreds of people and then write our essays. That’s how we should do it anyways, if your answer is easily a single person than you should probably go take some more notes, even if it’s just to compare and contrast.

But the question got me thinking about how sometimes when we learn things we don’t question it. We just take someone’s (or a group of people’s) ideas and adapt them, they simply become our own. This happens a lot when we are surrounded by one kind of idea. When our notes are one sided.

It’s also why we can see such dramatic phases in our lives when we look back. Who were you around when you went into that stage. Who taught you that way of life?

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OOTD: Let’s get down to business

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( Top: LOFT // Skirt: Banana Republic // Shoes: Marc Jacob // Bracelets: Alex and Ani )

It’s only been five months since I’ve done an outfit of the day post. I’d like to say that I have had some cute outfits since then, it was just that the fashion posts were getting a lot more traction than all my other posts and I really didn’t want this to be a fashion blog. Still, they are fun on occasion and I figured what better way to do a “my first week at work” update than with some business casual threads.

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I was bullied to attempted suicide. Here’s what I think about the Michelle Carter case:

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Now that I’ve decided to add a mental health section to this blog I’ve been trying to keep it from taking over. I have a lot to talk about, but I don’t want it to be the main point of this blog. Still, this is one news story that I couldn’t really back away from. It hits a little close to home and it’s pretty main stream.

In middle school I was bullied very badly, to the point I was pulled out of school (I didn’t technically finish 8th grade before I moved on to high school) and put into a private school for the following year simply to get me away from the classmates I was with. It was not a good time, all three years I was horribly depressed. I got pulled from school because I told my mom I was suicidal (more on that choice here).

One line that haunted me was “I heard you were suicidal, but I guess you couldn’t even kill yourself right.”

I mean YIKES. So needless to say I have thoughts on the Michelle Carter story, a story that is 100xs worse than mine was and ultimately lead to the death of  a teenage boy.

You can read the full news story here if you haven’t already, but it has a lot more to do than simply telling someone they should kill themselves. I’m not going to go into all the details though, because plenty of people already have. Instead I’m going to go into my thoughts on it.

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August Updates:

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Hey everyone, I have some crazy things happening in my life right now. And by crazy I mean I’m getting better and my life is suddenly moving on like it was supposed to a year and a half ago.

First thing first, I’m now employed! I’m starting a new job Monday which I’m very excited about. I mentioned in multiple blog posts that I was going to write a “career goals” post but I never got around to it, mainly because I was really discouraged. Every time I started to get well enough to work my health would crash. I didn’t know when to start trying to find employment. This job is perfect because it’s a corporate job but I’m starting half time, which means that I get to start slow and not over do. I’m excited about the work and the company. So cheers to that!

Since I’m starting to work I’m going to finally get back on a schedule, something I haven’t had since I graduated college in May 2016. That’ll be really good for me, I keep hearing about how important routine is and I don’t have one right now. Speaking of routine I’m going to try and get on a blogging routine with two posts a week. I was thinking Tuesday and Friday and since today is a Wednesday I’m planning on starting this next week.

The next few weeks are going to be a bit of a shock to my system, and I mean that physically and mentally. I’m going to be learning on the job and I’m also going to be reshaping the way I live my life. I mean, I have been on the couch for the last year and a half because of Lyme. I’ll be sharing a bit of that on here! I’m planning on it influencing my posts instead of taking over, so no need to worry about that.

Hope you have a great rest of the week!

Five real life truths I’ve learned from writing fiction:

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The characters are more important than the plot. This one someone might debate with me, but I stand firm on it. If you have a good plot with really terrible characters you have a bad book. You need characters you can relate too or at least somewhat understand. If you have amazing characters with good character development and the stories plot line isn’t that great, you’re book is at least somewhat decent.

Life is a lot like this. Our life stories might not be the most interesting. We can’t all have the one in a million success stories that we hear about on TV. We all have interesting points in our lives, we all do amazing things, but our whole lives aren’t going to be filled with that kind of excitement, and that’s okay, our stories are still great, because we’re the lead characters and who we are is enough. We’re all interesting, we’re all unique, we all have amazing character development. Our lives are all worth reading.

Everything has a lesson. What’s the moral of the story? It’s a question you should have an answer to at the end of every book, if you don’t have one then I don’t know what kind of book you just wrote, but it’s probably not the most valuable piece of literature. Everything that happens in a story should lead to something else, every event should have lessons that we bring to the next plot point, just like everything that happens in our life should be learned from. The world is full of knowledge. Every mistake and every success promises more and more of it, if we ignore the lessons we aren’t ever going to develop our own stories.

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Six of my favorite Instagram accounts:

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Consider this a follow Friday on a Thursday! I’ve never been very good with keeping up with the appropriate time to use a hashtag. I’m known to #tbt on a Monday.

I did a post on blogs you should follow a while back, so I wanted to do one that include five of my favorite Instagram accounts so everyone on her could go check them out! The sixth is mine, because I’m shamelessly self promoting.

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Why you shouldn’t do things just to inspire others:

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When you say that people shouldn’t do things to impress others everyone agrees without hesitation, but when you say that you shouldn’t aspire to inspire, you get a little push back. People like being inspirational. Especially who live in modern times because we live in a world where everyone has a window to your life, even complete strangers (this blog, your Instagram- you know what I mean).

I got a little cocky the other day when one of my friends told me that they found my winning fight with something as inspirational. I let it go to my head a little, I was like, hell yes. I am inspirational. And I am, and honestly you are too, we are all inspirational, that’s not in question, it’s about doing things for the purpose of inspiring. It gets a little shady.

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