“I’m starting first thing tomorrow. Today has already been lost.”

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I’ve written a lot about habits and goals and getting out of ruts lately. It’s because I’ve been in a few of them. My life is going really well, but there are minor aspects of it need to be ignited again. Hobbies need to be restarted. Diets need to be started. Friends need to be reached out to.

But I’m having problems jump starting it because I, like a lot of people, want to start tomorrow. Tomorrow normally doesn’t come, or if it does, I make a mistake and then announce that I might as well start the next day and not count today, because, who wants to start with a failure?

Already ate a doughnut? We’ve ruined the diet we might as well eat poorly the rest of the day and start clean tomorrow. Already procrastinated past your scheduled work time? Might as well just try again tomorrow, no reason to start late. Ran out of time in your week to see friends, might as well wait till next week instead of reaching out. It’s constant. Tomorrow is always better even when we said it yesterday. It’s a cycle and one we honestly don’t want to break because it’s hard to break and we don’t want to put in the work.

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Dealing with the inbetween.

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You know that feeling when you’re waiting on things to pass? Whether you’re waiting for a big career move to shake out or waiting for a doctors appointment these little moments of waiting seem to take over a big part of our lives. Sometime, it can even feel like we’re always in a stage of waiting.

It’s easy to say not to focus on it, and in someways that’s very good advice. Distract yourself, work on other projects. Pour your time into making sure you are the best you can be when whatever event roles around. There is a ton you can do to get past the wait, to move forward and not let time be completely in control of your life. And I absolutely think people should focus on doing just that.

But there is sometimes when the wait is hovering over you like a storm cloud and it’s harder to shake, even when you are pouring yourself into other things, even when you are focusing on improving and moving forward. Sometimes it’s just that dark out while you wait to be let in.

I get it. I’m even there with you.

But what is there to do? How do you learn to enjoy the inbetween?

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Seven Things:

 

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First of all- Happy Halloween! I hope it’s spook-tacular! I can’t believe we are already at the end of October, this year seems to be flying by. But if you have a few spare minutes to take in the day (perhaps while waiting for Trick-or-Treaters) here are some links for you to enjoy discovering and reading through!

Share your genius:

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I’m reading (listening) to a book on Da Vinci by Walter Isaacson. I might make a book review of it later but I wanted to make a separate post about a theme that runs through this book. Da Vinci was a chronic procrastinator. He did amazing work that he was interested in, but the moment he lost interest he stopped (sometimes mid painting). He left behind hoards of studies that could have changed medicine and city structures but never did because he found editing and publishing too bothersome. He wanted to learn, not share, and in theory there is nothing wrong with this. Your time is your time, no matter how you want to use it or share it. I’m not arguing that he didn’t have the right to keep his findings to himself. I’m saying it’s a shame he did.

Da Vinci found out how our heart valves worked in his unpublished studies. Nobody gave mind to his theory until new researchers rediscovered what he did in 1960. Nineteen-sixty. He was that ahead of his time, that genius, but he didn’t share because of the work  load it would take.

Lucky for him we have found all his notebooks and know of his genius, but I’m betting for a lot of great minds this isn’t true. I’m guessing that there are a lot of great minds like him, who love the thrill of learning but don’t love the work that goes into sharing, and I’m guessing that their work has been lost over the years. It’s even more of a threat now that most work is done digitally. How many floppy-disks full of information have simply been thrown in landfills at this point?

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Lyme disease and the extremists.

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There’s this dark area where sick people aren’t being believed or listened to and it’s not only causing fear but it’s causing insane conspiracy theories and wild accusations.

Lyme is real, the CDC and doctors everywhere agree on it. They don’t believe in chronic Lyme though, and they say  that after the first round of medication you are completely healed. As someone who has had the first round of medicine let me tell you, it wasn’t enough, and had I been given more treatment right away I probably would be well, but instead I was given time for that infection to spread. I had to find more treatment in different ways and because it got so bad I had to learn about other ways to support my body that might not be traditional (I talked about real medicine and fake medicine here). It’s been a hard road, but some doctors still stand by the fact I was well after the first round of treatment. It’s the same thing  they have told countless others who are still very much sick. The worse they get the more they make them spend on tests trying to find something else, or worse tell them it’s in their heads.

Of course people go nutty, but the level of distrust doesn’t just lead to sick people, it has lead to something else entirely.

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Book Review: The Signature of All Things

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In The Signature of All Things, Elizabeth Gilbert returns to fiction, inserting her inimitable voice into an enthralling story of love, adventure and discovery. Spanning much of the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, the novel follows the fortunes of the extraordinary Whittaker family as led by the enterprising Henry Whittaker—a poor-born Englishman who makes a great fortune in the South American quinine trade, eventually becoming the richest man in Philadelphia. Born in 1800, Henry’s brilliant daughter, Alma (who inherits both her father’s money and his mind), ultimately becomes a botanist of considerable gifts herself. As Alma’s research takes her deeper into the mysteries of evolution, she falls in love with a man named Ambrose Pike who makes incomparable paintings of orchids and who draws her in the exact opposite direction — into the realm of the spiritual, the divine, and the magical. Alma is a clear-minded scientist; Ambrose a utopian artist — but what unites this unlikely couple is a desperate need to understand the workings of this world and the mechanisms behind all life.

-Goodreads

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Good role models aren’t the ones trying to influence people.

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Instagram influencers. Political influencers. Bloggers even.

If you scan the internet it seems that people aren’t just sharing their lives with you, but they’re trying to get you to live more like them. Whether it’s by changing your lifestyle, buying brands, or changing your opinions, there are a lot of people who want you to change. Maybe they want to be the standard that you’re reaching for, maybe they just like the fame. Whatever the case, the people who are trying hard to influence and be role models… they’re not normally the people you should aspire to be.

The best role models are ones that guide you through life. Their values are set and admirable and their life, despite it’s struggles, has joy in it on a really fundamental level. The best role models are moral ones. They are the content ones. And they are the ones we’d still like to be like when they are in their seventies. Good role models aren’t hard to find, despite what people say, there are a lot of good people in this world. Of course no one is perfect, but a good role model doesn’t pretend to be. They wear their flaws and they work on bettering them.

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